It has been a long day. The sun is finally setting in the Pacific Northwest. It is beautiful to watch the shadows fall in my garden.
Dinner is over. The dishes washed. The dog walked. I settle down to read. Three pieces of paper fall as I open my prayer book. ***
This is the eulogy for my friend Sally who passed away one Sunday when I was out of town. Her sudden death was probably good for her but hard for me.
She was like a mother to me. She was one of the proper “church women” who served on the altar guild during the one and only time that I did. She brought me the church bulletins for the Sundays that I missed. She gave me plants and sweet little notes of encouragement. Her kindness made my life as a working mother and wife easier.
Long before her death she selected the songs, Bible readings , flowers and made all the arrangements for her service. It was a wonderful gift. This eulogy (above) written by our mutual friend is the only tangible reminder I have of Sally.
The second paper is a note from my friend Verda to my son for his high school graduation. Verda was another person who took me under her wing. We shared a love of fashion and chocolate.
Our bond grew even stronger during one tough year.
First my ten-year old son was hit by a car. It was Verda who came to the emergency room while I waited for my husband.
Later that year she called to tell me that her beautiful, talented daughter had died.
Somehow, we made it through the year. Mark recovered completely with only a scar near his hairline to remind us of the day he almost died.
The night my husband died Verda came to the hospital.
Verda died in May 2015 after a long illness. I have many reminders of Verda but this handwritten note is especially dear to me.
The third paper is a snap shot of my husband on his last fishing trip to Alaska. I like to think about how happy he was with our sons on these trips.
I planned to go with him one day to see Alaska. I never made time for the trip and then it was too late.
Looking at these papers reminds me that I loved and was loved.
I find peace reading this prayer as I have done for countless nights in my adult life:
“O Lord, support us all the day long, until the shadows lengthen , and the evening comes, and the busy world is hushed, and the fever of life is over, and our work is done. Then in thy mercy, grant us a safe lodging, and a holy rest, and peace at the last. Amen”
Now from my heart to yours, I wish you peace in your life and a restful sleep this evening.
Note: Please forgive the poor quality of these photos…I am still learning. I can hear my son right now admonishing me for not doing a better job. Yikes!
***The Book of Common Prayer, 1979 used by Anglicans and Episcopalians. Mine includes our hymnal and is embossed with my name…a gift from my husband.
Oh. So beautiful.
I was captured with, “the dishes washed, the dog walked. I settle down to read.”
Such beautiful writing.
And then the content.
Makes me teary, but in a wonderful way.
How lucky you were to know Verda, and your husband.
How lucky they were to know you.
How lucky I am to read this and find you here in internet land.
Sleep well & thank you.
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A lovely tribute to your special people.
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This is a beautiful post, i send lots of love to you also, and to know we have been loved and touched by such wonderful people is something to hold in your heart forever , have s good week end x
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A poignant trio
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That is a truly lovely prayer that surpasses religion and includes everyone. Thank you for sharing, Lori.
My heart goes out to you for the losses you’ve suffered. I admire your courage for sharing the stories. May your strength give all of us strength.
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Beautiful post. I won’t hit “like”. That seems a bit trite for something so heartfelt. Wishing you happy days ahead.
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Beautiful post. I won’t hit “like”; that seems a little trite for something so heart-felt. Wishing you many happy times ahead.
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You have been and are loved by family and friends. You have faith. Your glass is half full not half empty. Positive vibes for all who visit, and for that we say thanks. 🙂
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What a beautiful tribute to those who have loved you, Lori:). Thank you for sharing.
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Lovely though of those who have blessed your life.
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Ah, I need my box of tissues. This is beautiful. What lovely friendships you have shared.
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This is so touching to read Lori. Lots of love..lots of loss. Hugs to you.
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What a beautiful heartfelt post and I’m going to copy that prayer. It’s wonderful to have dear caring people in our lives and always hard when their time comes to leave this earth. Blessings on you and your sons. Hope you have a great weekend.
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I could not access the site until I had clicked ‘like’ but appreciation goes far beyond ‘feelings’ of like. I have journeyed now through the deaths of many loved ones both friends and family ie Mums and Dads, and sister. It is the memories and the beauty of the journey through the eyes of ‘believers’ which inspires and strengthens the rest of us to live well and be Lights of Hope in the darkness of this broken world. Thanks.
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What a wonderful remembrance of ones you’ve loved and lost, and surely a help for others finding their way out of dark times.
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Reblogged this on Still Another Writer's Blog.
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Thanks for sharing the beauty of the two of you bond.
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What a wonderful tribute to three people who obviously had much love to give the world.
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This is a beautiful post about love and loss and what a lovely prayer. It’s not one I have ever read/heard of before.
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Lori, this is beautiful. I’m not even quite sure what to say, except that my experience of your writing is so full of grace. Thank you, thank you.
I am so grateful to meet you here. Much love and Light to you, and to your son, and to the Souls of your husband and to Verda and Sally. ❤
Blessings,
Debbie
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Thank you for writing a great blog!
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This is a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing such heartfelt thoughts and memories.
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I love The Book of Common Prayer.
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Me too!
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Great post and thanks for following my blog
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My pleasure!
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Thank you for sharing.
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We should all be blessed enough to have a Verda in our lives. She sounds like she was an amazing friend. I really enjoy your writing style. Thanks for sharing your heart.
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It really touches me that you would take the time to read and respond to my post. Yes, I did write from the heart. It helps me to remember loved ones. I look forward to reading your blog.
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First time visiting your blog. I’ve skipped around and read a few postings, and – like MacArthur – I shall return. (I have a BCP identical to yours; it’s falling apart but I like it that way.)
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