In A Nurse & A Purse…Beware ! I wrote about the dangers to women from predatory men.
Just recently, I learned that a grandmother whom we all thought had her act together fell prey to a much younger man.
Here’s the upshot.
Grandmother meets a charming younger man.
Grandmother begins relationship with younger man.
Grandmother gives younger man substantial amounts of money.
Younger man disappears.
Grandfather finds out and is livid. He moves out and files for divorce.
This is so sad.
They have been married for over 50 years.
They have to sell their home and vacation home to cover the money she gave away and to be able to live separately.
Their adult children are upset.
The grandmother is embarrassed.
The grandfather feels betrayed.
What a mess!
Were there warning signs?
Their life together was very non-eventful…kind of what you expect from an older, retired couple.
In retrospect, the adult children recall their mom needing time away. She would go often to their vacation home alone which is where she met the casanova.
I think she enjoyed the attention not realizing the high price to be paid.
My bank steps up
A few years ago, I wanted to close my savings account and withdraw the money.
Before I could do that, I had to talk with a manager who wanted to be sure that I was not being coerced or led astray. It was a bit irritating at first, but as I thought about it, I was glad that my bank took that extra step.
When I wrote a large check my bank also called to make sure that the check was legitimate as it was out of the ordinary for me. Once again, I was grateful.
These are important steps but obviously not enough. I know that I would resent my adult sons monitoring or controlling my spending. However, I know that day may come.
I would prefer my sons’ intervention to living under a bridge!