Over a year ago, my friend suddenly ghosted me.
It was very painful as we had been close friends for over 20 years.
My emails, calls and texts went unanswered.
I had no idea what had happened.
Finally I stopped. I moved on.
Occasionally, I would find a note or picture that brought back bittersweet memories.
Otherwise, I succeeded in putting her out of my mind.
Today, she reached out tentatively and made contact.
I can’t tell you how happy that made me.
It also opened a wound that I thought was healed.
It made me realize how deeply hurt I had felt.
This was a door that I thought was closed forever.
I am not sure that I want to reopen it.
Forgiveness is a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness. Take the moral high ground!
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You are right, of course. I will forgive her and try to restore our friendship. Forgiveness is always the better choice. Thanks Peter!
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If it doesn’t work out you will, at least, have the moral high ground!
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Been there. It’s very painful.
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I had a similar thing happen to me and I decided I did want to understand what had happened. She was ashamed to see me again, her boyfriend had beat her to within an inch of her life, the emotional mess of being seen in such a way, no emotional strength from all the time leading up to this had all taken away her heart and left her desolate. Now I’m not saying this is your friend, but even those little things take us away from ourselves, from us…and I think it has taken courage to touch base with you again. But even if it is seemingly all for the wrong reasons…you will meet them from the heart you have built in that loss…maybe she too has grown and dares to remember that friendship with the love it was built on…and grown too 😀❤️🙏🏽
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It would be difficult not something i have experienced
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I think o remember you writing about this when it happened. I think I’m happy for you that she’s back, if it’s something you decide is good for you!
Plus, I’m kind of curious about the reasons, so I hope it shows up here. 👃
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This is painful yes. The joy and the pain return too with this friend’s return for all that is unresolved, for the uncertainty of how it will be this time. Wishing you best outcomes through this with absolute ease!! Hoping the friendship gets restored and healed.
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