Two friends were recently married but opted out of a honeymoon. This was not because they could not afford a trip or could not take the time away from their jobs. Rather, it was a promise to each other to live their lives together in a joyous, meaningful fashion so that everyday was a honeymoon. Or, as Mark Twain said about his wife “Wheresoever she was, there was Eden.”
― Mark Twain, The Diary of Adam and Eve
I find my friends’ decision to be utterly charming and romantic but also a declaration of their values. Sometimes I think it is too easy to lower one’s standards and expectations for ourselves and our significant others. Falling down that slippery slope in how we live our lives and treat our loved ones can make each day drudgery and even lead to the demise of a relationship.
Early in my marriage I committed myself to treating my family as well,if not better, on a daily basis as I would treat my colleagues at work, friends or even strangers on the street. If I could dress up for work, put on makeup and greet others politely surely I could try to always dress and act in a pleasing manner for my husband and sons who were the center of my universe. This was a simple choice but it set the tone.
Later, when caring for my husband during his terminal illness, I made an effort to look nice. I was glad that I did as he once commented that he would hate to see me appearing bedraggled during his many hospital stays and doctor visits. My “uniform” was simply black pants and black tops with simple jewelry. Easy to accessorize and always polished.
When we respect and value ourselves, our family,our friends, and our relationships and act accordingly, we can enjoy a bit of Eden everyday.