Why take your life?

On November 3, I posted “Cherish One Another”.  It was inspired by my friends’ lovely wedding reception.

Last night I learned that one of the couple had committed suicide.  Evidently, this had been planned for a long time.

I feel guilty.  I feel sad.  I feel overwhelmed.  I feel confused.

Yet, I know that my feelings are nothing compared to the family’s grief, confusion and despair.

My job now is to support the family as they begin to deal with this tragedy.

In 2015, my older brother died suddenly.  Then, a few weeks later my best friend died.  I was hoping that the deaths and sadness would be over for awhile… at least for 2016.

Even more reason to cherish one another.

Cherish One Another



24 thoughts on “Why take your life?

  1. I just know that suicide follows unfathomable depression and powerlessness and grief and probably many other emotions. I am so sorry for you and the family. This will take time and counseling for the family to work through and much prayer and resilience on your part.
    Many blessings to you and all involved. Julia

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  2. Life is simultaneously strong yet fragile. A life path can change completely in an instant with an accident, a heart failure or stroke, or a decision. Those left behind are left to wonder why, what could I have done? Probably nothing. Cherish the memories and the joys and sadness of the relationship. Go on the next day and the next.


  3. (((Hugs))) Lori, I am so sorry for your loss. 😦 In times like this, I wish I had the right words to share to make the pain go away. Just know that my thoughts are with you and I am sending good vibes your way ❤ You're a bright light and resilient. Keep shining ❤ xo

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  4. You are absolutely right Lori. We need to cherish each other. Such profound words. Life can change in an instant. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow. Some of us know death all too well. It is so important that we don’t take any moments for granted. Thank you for sharing even though you are grieving.


  5. Dealing with the aftermath of suicide is a pain I’ve not had to experience first hand. That being said, I have a close friend who has and I’ve been there to witness all of her pain. It’s heartbreaking for the people left behind. My heart aches for her.
    People who commit suicide are in a pain we can’t understand. This is why we need to be supportive and present for those in our lives with mental illness. I have no shame in owning my OCD/Anxiety, but many people do.
    The best thing we can bring to the table is kindness. Being there for those that need us, even when they don’t want us there.
    I’m so sorry for your loss.


    1. Thank you for your comments and candor in talking about your OCD/ anxiety. I agree with you about being present for people who are dealing with mental health issues. We are all on this journey together. Lori

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  6. Lori, You have had such a difficult year of losses, yet your words are kind and strong and wise. Just having you as a friend will help the other partner through this terrible time and work toward a life beyond the pain of today. Clare


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