Sometimes even the people we love either can not or will not support us in our pursuit of our dreams.
It is easy to believe that our family and friends will be our loudest cheerleaders.
It’s a sweet thought.
You Must Be Kidding!
I wanted to be a doctor.
What take a good job away from a man?
Spend all that time and money to become a doctor and then later give it all up to stay home with your kids?
Go live in Europe?
You must be kidding.
Whose Problem is This?
However, through experience I have learned that often the problem lies with the naysayers.
My dearest friends and family sometimes project their fears, their insecurities, their worldviews on me.
And, I have let them.
I let them because of my own doubts and also because I knew they cared about me.
I Did It
Yet, those wonderful times when I did it…
I was excited every day to go work.
I was excited to make a plan and to make that plan work.
It often cost me in time, money, physical and mental fatigue.
But, the rewards? Fantastic!
Fantastic in part because they were hard won.
The reward of knowing that I gave my dream my best shot.
The knowledge that I accomplished something meaningful to me.
What Are Your Dreams?
Not long after we were married my husband asked me,
“What are your dreams? How can I help you with them?”
I was speechless. I thought my life as a wife would be in a supporting role to his life.
Thank goodness he was a better friend and husband to me than that!
I Want Your Life…Maybe
Sometimes, I meet someone and feel envious.
They have accomplished big dreams.
They are not that much different than I am.
The big difference. They stuck with their dreams through it all.
Persistence paid off.
Sometimes, I meet someone and they are jealous of my life.
A successful woman living a glamourous life told me,
“You have lived the life I wanted.”
Yes, I, too, have been persistent.
My path has not been straight forward.
It has been lonely. It has been scary.
I have trusted my crazy ideas.
I have followed my dreams.
Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow.
`American Poet Langston Hughes, 1902-1967