In this post, I share with you a refreshing perspective on living and nurturing our relationships from Dr. Amit Sood of the Mayo Clinic.
I enjoy reading different viewpoints or, I could say, different versions of the same song.
Dr. Sood’s email reinforces and rekindles the kind of behaviors that I want to incorporate in my life.
From Dr. Amit Sood
“Until quite recently, I was extremely busy trying to improve others. I was also totally absorbed in my to-do lists. As a result my brain was cluttered with numerous open files. I was pushing life away. In an effort to improve others, I was failing to appreciate how good they already were. Fortunate for me, slowly a different realization has set it.
“I have realized that my obstinate effort to improve others only pushes them away. They associate me with feeling bad about themselves. Instead of improving, they withdraw away from me – a big price to pay.
“I have now found a simple solution – thoughtful prioritization. I accept the imperfections that represent variations of the norm. I try my best to accept others as they are. Realizing my time with others is finite, I focus on the big picture. I prioritize relationships above anything else. This has saved me countless hours of grief.
“This Wednesday commit to nurturing an open flexible kind accepting disposition following this exercise.
“Commit to being flexible this Wednesday. Pick only the most important challenges. As important as to-do list is not-to-do list.
Make your not-to-do list today.
“Minimize judgment of others. Choose not to improve a minor annoyance in others. Accept it as a different flavor, instead of calling it good or bad. Not choosing to improve is sometimes a great improvement. Tell yourself today – not everything needs to be or can be fixed.
I wish you well.”
Amit Sood, MD MSc
Professor of Medicine
Mayo Clinic Rochester
As always, I wish you well too!