She’s a bitch.
I don’t like her. I try to avoid her.
Yet, this woman taught me something valuable.
I have been unhappy for awhile about a relationship.
No matter the cause.
It has been going on for years.
I am not perfect but I have attempted to talk about it and arrive at a resolution.
I don’t like the situation.
I don’t like ignoring the “elephant in the room”.
Enter the woman who inadvertently helped me.
I met her when she was very unhappy about her marrriage.
Her husband was cheating on her.
I met him. I did not like either one of them.
Our paths continued to cross. Too often.
I recall her surrendering to the problem with these words, “This is my cross to bear.”
In dealing with my situation, I revisited her resolution.
There are situations that we can not change.
There are people who will never understand us.
There are people who will resent us, undermine us, question our motives.
They are tiresome. They are toxic.
I have left the building.
I plan to minimize my emotional investment in them and the situation.
They will be on the outer circles of my life even when we are in the same room.
The situation is something I must bear.
I must bear it while minimizing its negative impact on me.
I must bear it without closing all doors to a potential resolution.
I will bear it by finding joy and satisfaction in my other relationships and activities.
I will bear it by letting go and wishing them a good life.
I will bear it by being the best person that I can be.
This “cross that I must bear” may be a harbinger of growth.