Tag: Lori Greer in Portland

I am exhausted

It’s 2:16 A.M. and I am up with a sick dog.

She never gets sick during the day. It’s always in the middle of the night.

I open the back door for her and watch her through the window.

A few minutes later she comes to the back door, tail wagging, ready to come inside.

She seems to be over her distress. 

She returns to bed and resumes sleeping.

However, I am awake and on edge wondering if this is the end of it. 

Sure enough, about twenty minutes later she needs to go outside again.  

Once again, she comes in, returns to bed and falls asleep.  

That’s it.  She sleeps the rest of the night.  

I gradually fall asleep only to be awakened too soon by my alarm clock.  

Of course, she sleeps in while I begin my day.  

Health care professionals who preach the benefits of uninterrupted sleep have never experienced, or have forgotten, how infants and pets can wreck one’s sleep.

Yawn…

Lucky Me

Lucky me…

I get to work with a bully.

As if life were not challenging enough, feeling the heel of a jerk on my neck is beyond the pale.

The challenge is to maintain my professionalism at all times.

It is the only choice.

Being an older female in America is not easy.

Being in charge of my behavior and attitude is not easy either.

I must not cede my dignity.

This too shall pass.

That slippery slope

Late one night, I walked into my kitchen to turn off the lights before going to bed only to discover dirty dishes in the sink that I had forgotten to wash. 

Putting them in the dishwasher was out of the question.  These dishes needed to be hand washed. 

I was so tired. My bed was calling.

Sighing, I decided to wash them and be done with it.

I reminded myself how happy I would feel in the morning to come into my clean kitchen.  

Also, I would not be going down that dreaded slippery slope!  

First a few dirty dishes left overnight.  

Then, dirty dishes all over my house, eating from food containers, eating while watching TV.  

Then not paying bills, not cleaning my house….Being locked away for vagrancy, sloth….

Oh my!

Of course, there is also the question of going back up that slippery slope.

By that I mean, re-establishing the good habits that I have let slide.  

Such as doing yoga everyday…feels so good afterwards, helps me move better, and decreases my stress.

Planks…just a few a day make a difference in my upper body strength and my core.  

And of course, a few push-ups.  

So, like Sisyphus, I will make myself do these things.

And then, do them again the next day and the day after, ad infinitum.

Cancer

As a widow, I know the pain that comes with loss. 

I thought I was immune to the fear of death.  

Like the heroine of a Greek tragedy, I could bear the worst.  

Yet, when I was diagnosed with cancer, my stoic wall crumbled.

I was terrified.  I could not focus.  I could not settle down. 

This was Friday afternoon. Surgery was scheduled for Tuesday.

A long time away.

Over the weekend, I turned to the Internet to research my cancer. A big no-no. The information added to my agony. 

Surgery

The surgery went smoothly.

The wait for the results was  excruciating.

The days passed slowly.

My anxiety was through the roof.

I kept checking my phone for a missed call from my doctor.

When my doctor finally called to tell me that I was cancer-free, the relief was indescribable.

I could breathe again. I was giddy and thankful. Another chance!

And now

I  regret the time that I lost worrying and imagining the worst.

It’s easy to get caught up in fear, especially when death seems to be waiting in the next room. 

I hope to live in the present.

Life is too short to spend my days worrying.

My days are numbered. 

They always have been.  

My Super Power

I love to read.

I also like background music while I read. 

Soft, but not elevator music.  

My reading chair is close to my speaker. 

As I was reading today, I had to lower the volume in order to concentrate. 

It was then that I realized that I had lost one of my Mom super powers…the ability to drown out background noise of any kind.

I could read, talk on the phone, write a letter or make a list even when chaos was happening all around me to include the dog throwing up!

This skill kept me sane, especially on days when my rambunctious boys were confined indoors due to inclement weather.  

My sons are grown with their own domestic chaos.

My days are quiet and predictable.

Everything in its place, for the most part, day after day.

I relish this quiet even though, at times, I miss the busyness of parenting.

I miss being needed, being accountable for someone, to someone.

There is no turning back the clock.

I am grateful for my life.

Return of a friend

Over a year ago, my friend suddenly ghosted me.  

It was very painful as we had been close friends for over 20 years.  

My emails, calls and texts went unanswered.  

I had no idea what had happened.

Finally I stopped.  I moved on.  

Continue reading “Return of a friend” →

Bullying

Just off the phone with my daughter-in-law in Denver.

She and my son are at their wits’ end with their 12-year old son being bullied at school.

Three times he has been physically assaulted, knocked to the ground and hit his head.

Going through the school protocol for anti-bullying has not resolved the situation.

Just last week I read about a 14-year old girl who took her life after being bullied.

Also, kids do bring guns to school.

This feels like too much to bear.

Trying to stay calm and think clearly so I can be a sounding board for my son and his wife as they navigate this minefield.

~Lori

Jumpstart

Feeling smug this morning.

I finished  two loads of laundry.   All by 7 A.M. Continue reading “Jumpstart” →

Perspective

“There are two ways to live your life.  One is as though nothing is a miracle.  The other is as though everything is a miracle.”   Einstein

I believe that this mindset helps us to live more creatively, fully and compassionately.

Just a thought.

My First Born

I could tell many stories about my first born.

This is one from the summer when he was 12 years old.

The start of summer.

That summer, he joined a year-round swim team.
He suffered from asthma and we thought swimming would be good for him.
We were right.

The end of summer.

By the end of the summer his breathing was much better. He did not have to use his inhaler as often. His wheezing was minimal. Also at the end of summer he swam in his first competitive meet. His event was the 500.
He was swimming against kids who had been in the program since they were 5 years old. Even though he was much better after taking lessons and practicing all summer, he was not as strong a swimmer as those kids.

They swam laps around him. They finished, exited the pool, and stood on the side watching him, now the only swimmer in the pool. The official stopped him and asked him if he wanted to quit.

My husband and I waited to see what he would do.

Without hesitation, he chose to finish the 500.
All of the other swimmers, the other parents and the officials waited while he swam back and forth across the pool.

The 500 is 100 yards freestyle, 100 yards backstroke, 100 yards butterfly stroke and 100 breaststroke. A really good swimmer can swim it in under ten minutes. He took about 30 minutes to complete all of the twenty laps.

He did not take home any medals that day, but he was a champion in our eyes.

He swam competitively for six years and earned many swimming and diving medals. His asthma was no longer an issue.

The story today.

He now is the father of a 12-year old son who is following in his path as a swimmer. My grandson has mastered all of the strokes and is doing well. He has not yet competed against other swimmers in a meet.

How he swims under the pressure of competition remains to be seen. I am confident that he will be a champion in the things that matter.