Tragedy and I are old friends.

I have dealt with tragedy before.

This is what I know.

It is hard everytime.

The road may be different but pain always shows its face.

People can be wonderful.

People can be  cruel.

People can be clueless.

Suffering is everywhere.

At the gym, I said hello to a new member.

She replied,

“You are the first person I have talked to since joining this gym.”

“Really?  This is a pretty friendly place but people sometimes don’t chat because they are busy working out. ”

“Oh, it’s not that.  It’s me.  I have not been able to talk to anyone before now.   My daughter died a month ago and I am still reeling from that.”

This lady proceeded to tell me that her daughter did not wake up one morning.

Her grandson called to tell her that “Mom won’t wake up!”.

My heart broke for her.

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Later, I joined my good friend for a walk.

She has only one daughter.

Her daughter went to law school, passed the bar, married and bought a house.

Life was good and full of promise for her daughter and son-in-law.

Then her daughter became ill about four years ago.

She can not work and is bed-ridden

Fast forward to today.

Her young husband was just diagnosed with stage 4 cancer.  Treatment has started.

My heart broke for my friend again.

She has so much on her plate in caring for her daughter and now, her son-in-law. They both live with her.

Joy is everywhere.

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I cherish my grandson who is in first grade.

I cherish my granddaughter who is learning to walk.

I adore the laughter and conversations with my neighbor’s granddaughters when they visit.

I exchange greetings and conversations with neighbors.

I go to dinner with friends and laugh over conversation.

I celebrate birthdays and anniversaries of my family and friends.

Life is good.  Life is hard.






16 thoughts on “Thoughts…

  1. These situations always remind us to keep things in perspective in our lives and to be grateful, kind and available to those we cherish and to strangers as you have no idea where their path is taking them. Prayers continued for your family!

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  2. Wonderful that you could express this so coherently . Joy and beauty are found in the most unexpected places but tragedy is the heart-road we all must travel – caring, loving, ever hoping for ‘better’ but KNOWING that a new day will dawn. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  3. Pema Chödrön (author, “When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times”): “[Things] come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”

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