“But when from a long distant past, nothing subsists, after the people are dead, after the things are broken and scattered, still, alone, more fragile, but with more vitality, more unsubstantial, more persistent, more faithful, the smell and taste of things remained poised a long time, like souls, ready to remind us, waiting and hoping for their moment, amid the ruins of all the rest; and bear unfaltering , in the tiny and almost impalpable drop of their essence, the vast structure of recollection.” excerpt from Remembrance of Things Past by Marcel Proust. Continue reading “Finding Grace in a Grilled Ham & Cheese”→
Did your Mom ever scold you about leaving things to the last minute? Mine did, but the lesson never stuck.
I remember a childhood story about a boy who always waited until Sunday night to do his homework. Imagine the upset when his friends decided to go to the movies one Sunday night and he couldn’t join them because his homework assignments were waiting for him in his backpack.
I love the simple and yet complex message in this little plaque. It inspires me to think about my many blessings even in the midst of sadness. I am not the only person who has lost loved ones. I am not the only one who is lonely. I am not the only one whistling in the dark at times. I am just one person who can try to brighten my day by helping others. When I was in graduate school learning about different therapeutic approaches, I recall our professor stating that there will always be people hurting. It is so true in so many ways from children to seniors. So, there is always something I can do or say to be of help in a quiet, non-obtrusive way if that is the right thing for that person. Sometimes just sitting with a person is all that can be done. I recall sitting with a young father whose toddler was dying. There was nothing I could say but I could stay with him and that is what I did.
So even in the midst of a world where things go horribly wrong and no safe harbor appears on the horizon, I must remain thankful and optimistic. Thankful for my brains and fortitude. Thankful for those around me who care about others and living a decent life. Thankful that I can rise everyday and live in freedom and relative safety in an imperfect world.